” If I find here and now unacceptable, I have three choices:

1. Accept it
2. Change it
3. Remove thyself from the situation

That is taking responsibility for your life. ” – Eckhart Tolle

Pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. I know I’m probably getting a lot of bizarre stares from that comment but it’s true. That is one of Buddha most famous messages that was left behind. A lot of the time we hold other people responsible for our pain. Negative emotions such as anger, jealousy ,hate ,possessiveness, resentment, anxiety and envy are not looked at as negative emotions but are completely justified . Instead of looking at them as self-created we blame these emotions on external factors. Forgetting our own power in the process.

Our thoughts co-create our reality and there is a conscious choice to think of something as either bad or good. When you make the conscious effort to place yourself in a negative situation you’re choosing suffering. For example, if it’s cloudy day and you begin to dread the day based on the weather then you have a negative emotional response without realizing the weather has done nothing to you but exist. Your lack of acceptance is what’s creating these dreadful emotions. We have to be aware of our own thoughts and the reality that we are creating in response to them.

Instead of replaying the past in our head and constantly remembering the constant “bad” situations that happened throughout the day. You can accept that they happened. You can allow yourself to freely feel those emotions in the moment and then release them. When we are constantly trying to find a reason why someone / something happened to us we are creating inner resistance to the truth and our reality. We are replaying that scenario over and over and creating bigger turmoil internally. When we accept it as is , we can also accept the emotions that follow. You have the power to create happiness and pleasure around you through your actions and thoughts.

We must make the conscious effort to constantly choose peace in our lives. We must accept it and then make efforts to change it whether that’s mentally or physically. You are responsible for your own happiness. Make sure you’re putting yourself first even when you’re battling your own thoughts.